Human beings are contradictory creatures.
When we are busy running around, we longed for peace and rest.
When we are just lazing with nothing to do, we want to be active.
When life is just cruising along sedately, we crave for excitment.
When things are happenning one after another, we wish for moments to catch our breath.
I guess we don't really know what we want, do we?
Or perhaps, it's a case of we want it all?
Tuesday, June 12, 2007
Wednesday, June 06, 2007
Singapore- Island-City-State
Many, many years ago, there was a book called "Singapore-Island-City-State". It's one of the those coffee table book, with nice photos of Singapore and it's people. Think it was published for National Day- you know, one of those feel-good, propaganda book.
As I get older, I tend to feel more and more appreciative of what Singapore has and what it offers. Of course, that is not to say that I agree with all the policies implemented by the powers that be. And there are some issues which I'm really, totally unhappy about (they are getting how much pay rise????). However, the country is relatively stable, most of us do have a job and a roof over our heads (in fact, many have quite a few roofs over their heads, judging from the spate of condominiums on sale recently). Crime rate isn't too bad and things actually work (though some say, they work too well- like clockwork with no room for flexibility).
Many of the expats that I meet have often told me that they like Hong Kong if they are single but once they have families, they prefer Singapore for its stability and safety- 2 key words if you have children.
Of course, things can always be better and hopefully they will become better progressively. But you know, there's no Shangri-la on earth and I think for what we;ve achieved so far, we can give ourselves a little pat on the back...(if there's any government officials reading this... a few more monetary package would be most welcomed. ^^ )
P/S- I do not belong to any PAP group....grassroots or otherwise.
As I get older, I tend to feel more and more appreciative of what Singapore has and what it offers. Of course, that is not to say that I agree with all the policies implemented by the powers that be. And there are some issues which I'm really, totally unhappy about (they are getting how much pay rise????). However, the country is relatively stable, most of us do have a job and a roof over our heads (in fact, many have quite a few roofs over their heads, judging from the spate of condominiums on sale recently). Crime rate isn't too bad and things actually work (though some say, they work too well- like clockwork with no room for flexibility).
Many of the expats that I meet have often told me that they like Hong Kong if they are single but once they have families, they prefer Singapore for its stability and safety- 2 key words if you have children.
Of course, things can always be better and hopefully they will become better progressively. But you know, there's no Shangri-la on earth and I think for what we;ve achieved so far, we can give ourselves a little pat on the back...(if there's any government officials reading this... a few more monetary package would be most welcomed. ^^ )
P/S- I do not belong to any PAP group....grassroots or otherwise.
Friday, June 01, 2007
Cross cultural differences?
Last weekend, the writer of the regular Sunday column, 'Hubby Tubby' in The New Paper was writing about cross cultural marriages. Like me, she had married an 'ang mo'- an Englishman. She was asked if there was any cultural differences (ie, difficulties) in her marriages. It got me thinking....did I ever have any cultural differences with my hubby?
I thought long and hard about it and like her, I honestly can't think of any. What we do have are individual differences. Of course, I can't discount the fact that these individual differences could be due to cultural differences. Afterall, we are who we are because of the way we were brought up. But they are no different from a normal couple from the same race/ culture.
So he prefers proper English tea to the regular 'tei' in the coffeeshop. And I'm not too keen on soup and crackers for lunch. He can't really bring himself to call my father 'dad'. I find it impossible (not to say totally rude) to call his dad by his name. They are not major issues.
What keeps a relationship going, in any relationship, whether is is an inter-racial one or not, is an open mind and an open heart. Plus the ability to know when to shut up and just listen. ^^
However, there is one thing that I've picked up from hubby (as part of the cultural difference), it's saying these four phrases often in our everyday life:
Please
Sorry
Thank you
I love you
Just because he's my husband and we've each other for 10 years does not mean I have to be rude to him.
If I can say 'please' to the hawker when I'm ordering that plate of char kway teow, then all the more I should say 'please' when I ask him to do something for me.
If I can say 'sorry' to a stranger for blocking his way, then all the more I should say 'sorry' when I make him wait for me.
If I can say 'thank you' to my friends, then all the more I should say 'thank you' to the person who's done so much for me.
And as for the 3 words, 'I Love You'. Well...I don't only love him on birthdays, Christmas and Valentine's Day, so why should I limit myself to saying those words only on those occassions?
In this aspect, I do believe that the Westerners are on the whole, better in this. Asians will generally feel that there is no need to say them out loud. We think it's enough to let our actions show if we're grateful or sorry.
Luh Luh wrote about 'expressing gratitude' recently on her blog. The Chinese is normally incapable at expressing gratitude. Actually, I think it's not just the Chinese who are bad at expressing themselves, but Asians in general.
As the Chinese saying goes- 礼多人不怪。(Nobody will mind if you are more polite than usual). But often, we think this phrase only apply to the friends, strangers but not family.
Perhaps if we are a little less reserved.
Perhaps if we start with family first.
I thought long and hard about it and like her, I honestly can't think of any. What we do have are individual differences. Of course, I can't discount the fact that these individual differences could be due to cultural differences. Afterall, we are who we are because of the way we were brought up. But they are no different from a normal couple from the same race/ culture.
So he prefers proper English tea to the regular 'tei' in the coffeeshop. And I'm not too keen on soup and crackers for lunch. He can't really bring himself to call my father 'dad'. I find it impossible (not to say totally rude) to call his dad by his name. They are not major issues.
What keeps a relationship going, in any relationship, whether is is an inter-racial one or not, is an open mind and an open heart. Plus the ability to know when to shut up and just listen. ^^
However, there is one thing that I've picked up from hubby (as part of the cultural difference), it's saying these four phrases often in our everyday life:
Please
Sorry
Thank you
I love you
Just because he's my husband and we've each other for 10 years does not mean I have to be rude to him.
If I can say 'please' to the hawker when I'm ordering that plate of char kway teow, then all the more I should say 'please' when I ask him to do something for me.
If I can say 'sorry' to a stranger for blocking his way, then all the more I should say 'sorry' when I make him wait for me.
If I can say 'thank you' to my friends, then all the more I should say 'thank you' to the person who's done so much for me.
And as for the 3 words, 'I Love You'. Well...I don't only love him on birthdays, Christmas and Valentine's Day, so why should I limit myself to saying those words only on those occassions?
In this aspect, I do believe that the Westerners are on the whole, better in this. Asians will generally feel that there is no need to say them out loud. We think it's enough to let our actions show if we're grateful or sorry.
Luh Luh wrote about 'expressing gratitude' recently on her blog. The Chinese is normally incapable at expressing gratitude. Actually, I think it's not just the Chinese who are bad at expressing themselves, but Asians in general.
As the Chinese saying goes- 礼多人不怪。(Nobody will mind if you are more polite than usual). But often, we think this phrase only apply to the friends, strangers but not family.
Perhaps if we are a little less reserved.
Perhaps if we start with family first.
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